I was scrolling down the inevitable black hole of TikTok the other day when I heard something that stopped me in my tracks:<\/p>\n\n\n\n
“If you were the main character in a movie about your life and there was an audience watching the movie, what would the audience be screaming at you to do?”<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n Oof. Gut punch. Because let\u2019s be honest\u2014most of us would be yelling something, or perhaps many things…It could be something gentle, like \u201cDude, put down your phone and be present.\u201d Or maybe other, louder things, like \u201cSTOP PRIORITIZING PEOPLE WHO DO NOT PRIORITIZE YOU\u201d or, “QUIT THAT JOB AND BE HAPPY!”<\/p>\n\n\n\n And let\u2019s not even start on those horror movie moments, when you know what\u2019s coming, and you\u2019re practically begging the character, \u201cDon\u2019t go in there!” But they always do. Every. Single. Time.<\/p>\n\n\n\n I sat with it for a minute; if my life was playing out on screen, what would I be yelling at myself<\/strong>?<\/p>\n\n\n\n I\u2019d probably be gripping the armrest and thinking, \u201cPlease don\u2019t say yes to that thing you don\u2019t have time for.\u201d I\u2019d be whispering to my friend next to me in the theatre, \u201cWhy doesn’t she stand up for herself?!\u201d I\u2019d be going mad when they (AKA, me) hesitate on something they know deep down they want, yelling, \u201cJust freaking do it already!\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n And here\u2019s the thing\u2014if we can see it so clearly from the outside, why is it so hard to change from the inside<\/strong>?<\/p>\n\n\n\n Maybe it\u2019s because we\u2019re too close to our own stories. We excuse our own patterns because they feel familiar. And we forget that, unlike a movie, we actually can rewrite the next scene.<\/p>\n\n\n\n So, here\u2019s my challenge for you (and for me):<\/p>\n\n\n\n What\u2019s the one thing (or things) you wish your past self would have done differently? What\u2019s the pattern that keeps playing on repeat? What\u2019s the decision that\u2014if this were a movie\u2014you\u2019d be watching, shaking your head, already knowing how it ends?<\/p>\n\n\n\n As you reflect, resist the urge to beat yourself up… Regret is a trap\u2014one filled with shame, guilt, and endless bargaining that leads nowhere but frustration. I have never believed in the idea of regret because there\u2019s no point in dwelling on what\u2019s already happened, but there is value in looking back with clarity. Not to ruminate, but to recognize<\/strong>. Not to stay stuck, but to step forward with a new perspective.<\/strong> If you keep watching yourself make the same choices, ending up in the same situations, it\u2019s worth asking\u2014do you want the story to stay the same, or is it time for a shift? Patterns don\u2019t break on their own, and nothing changes until you decide to change it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n This isn\u2019t about flipping your life upside down overnight, but about recognizing that you\u2019re not stuck in a predetermined storyline. You get to decide whether this remains a cycle of missed opportunities and frustration or becomes the turning point where things finally shift. This does not have to be the cautionary tale you thought it was\u2014maybe this is the part where everything starts to change, or at least some parts. Here\u2019s the thing about change and taking risks: the unknown will always feel uncomfortable, but staying in the same loop just because it\u2019s familiar isn\u2019t<\/strong> safe\u2014it\u2019s just stagnant<\/strong>. Those of you who read my blogs regularly know how much I encourage this. Instead of wondering what could<\/em> be, what if you actually experienced it? Take a moment to journal about the decisions you\u2019ve been avoiding or the ones you make begrudgingly; talk it out with someone you trust and visualize what the sequel to your life\u2019s movie would look like if you finally went for the plot twist… <\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n What would happen if you bet on yourself?<\/p>\n\n\n\n The one who sets boundaries, chooses joy, and stops giving second chances to things that don\u2019t deserve them. The one who stops letting fear hold them back. The one who finally realizes that their worth was never in question and who has the confidence they always envied in others. It’s your movie, so you get to decide.<\/p>\n\n\n\n “There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you.”<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n At the end of the day, no one wants to watch a movie where the character stays stuck. The best ones are where they finally get it<\/em>. Where they make the move, take the risk, say the thing, and step into something better… Doesn’t that feel good<\/strong>?<\/p>\n\n\n\n And I don\u2019t know about you, but I\u2019d rather be the character who makes it to the happy ending than the one who has people throwing popcorn at the screen, yelling, \u201cCome on. You know better!\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n So, what\u2019s your movie moment? What\u2019s the thing you know you\u2019d yell at yourself? Maybe today\u2019s the day you finally listen and take the first step. I was scrolling down the inevitable black hole of TikTok the other day when I heard something that stopped me in my tracks: “If you were the main character in a movie about your life and there was an audience watching the movie, what would the audience be screaming at you to do?” Oof. Gut punch. 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Figure out what you\u2019d be yelling.<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
“You can\u2019t start the next chapter of your life if you keep re-reading the last one.”<\/em> <\/p>\n\n\n\n2. Decide if you want the movie to take a plot twist.<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
“Change happens when the pain of staying the same is greater than the pain of change.”<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n3. Start acting like the main character you\u2019re rooting for.<\/h3>\n\n\n\n
“When writing the story of your life, don\u2019t let anyone else hold the pen.”<\/em>
-keep shining
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