{"id":174,"date":"2015-12-08T19:11:24","date_gmt":"2015-12-09T01:11:24","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/swsecrets.net\/?p=174"},"modified":"2018-06-15T23:21:12","modified_gmt":"2018-06-16T04:21:12","slug":"selfish-not-selfish","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/swsecrets.net\/?p=174","title":{"rendered":"Being Selfish Is Not Selfish"},"content":{"rendered":"

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I know that you have heard me say it before, but I want you to know some really good news!!! Are you ready for it? Here it goes….<\/p>\n

\u00a0It is okay to be selfish sometimes<\/strong>.<\/em><\/p>\n

Isn’t that relieving?! Knowing that you can focus on yourself and your own needs, and not have to feel guilty about it?<\/p>\n

For the sake of this blog I like to refer to\u00a0selfishness as ‘self-interest’ because it has a much more positive tone to it. So, why is\u00a0it so important to be self-interested? And how can we be self-interested without feeling guilty?<\/p>\n

Answer me this…How productive are you when you are exhausted, upset, rushed? How involved and focused are you on your work, family, and other obligations when you are experiencing those symptoms I just listed? How are you able to fully invest in\u00a0those obligations\u00a0when you are not fully invested in yourself, first and foremost?<\/em><\/p>\n

Do this exercise for me real quick: Come up with a list of things you can do for self care, because to be self-interested means you have to take care of\u00a0yourself<\/em>. What are some goals you can set for yourself to be sure you’re giving yourself enough ‘me time’, and how will you hold yourself accountable for reaching that goal? For example, one of my self care goals is to get a manicure every 3 weeks \ud83d\ude42\u00a0I schedule my next appointment while I am at the salon so I know for sure that I will continue my self care and not forget about it. Although this\u00a0act of self-interest\u00a0costs money, there are many self-interest options that do not cost anything, such as taking a bath, going for a walk, calling someone you’re close to, listening to music,\u00a0etc.<\/p>\n

Each day ask yourself two things: 1.<\/strong> What would be the most loving action I could take for myself today? 2.<\/strong> What would\u00a0be\u00a0fun for me\u00a0today?
\nPut these questions in your phone as an alarm, or write yourself a sticky note and place it somewhere you will see it each and every day.
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\n<\/em>Self-interest helps to clear our minds and feel rejuvenated. It helps me focus on myself, and what\u00a0I need to do for me<\/strong> in order to focus on my other obligations. We need that ‘breath of fresh air’ sometimes, that break, that moment of selfishness to feel ready to take on the next challenge that comes our way. I know for a fact that I am much more empathetic, patient, and happy\u00a0helping others at work every day\u00a0when I also remember to help myself.<\/p>\n

Sometimes I feel guilty when I focus on myself, and I think that is pretty normal. But, by reminding myself that I am a better me when I am happy and give myself some time to breathe, I feel so much better about every other aspect in my life. You are helping others more-so by spending some time focusing on you as well. With a fresh mind, you can better help and be there for others. It is all about balance <\/strong>and giving yourself permission to love yourself<\/strong>.<\/p>\n

I think society puts a lot of pressure on us to do for others, be helpful, focus on people’s needs and how we can better this world. Yes, all of these things are true and important,\u00a0but we are forgetting to include ourselves in there! We cannot better the lives of others if we are not bettering ourselves. We are a society focused on external reward and praise for our actions.\u00a0Those are great things, but they can\u00a0be even greater if we remember to give ourselves a break\u00a0sometimes.
\nSelf interest\u00a0= self respect<\/strong>.
\nType ‘self-interest quotes’ into your search engine and view images<\/span>\u00a0to see all the negative ideas of self-interest that pop up.\u00a0This is unfortunately\u00a0a good example of\u00a0why we are made to believe that being self-interested is frowned upon, and that is truly a misconception!<\/p>\n

It is not\u00a0selfish to love yourself, take care of yourself, and make your happiness<\/span> a priority. \u00a0It’s necessary.<\/em><\/p>\n

Have I persuaded you yet?<\/p>\n

-keep shining<\/p>\n

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I know that you have heard me say it before, but I want you to know some really good news!!! Are you ready for it? Here it goes…. \u00a0It is okay to be selfish sometimes. Isn’t that relieving?! Knowing that you can focus on yourself and your own needs, and not have to feel guilty about it? For the sake of this blog I like to refer to\u00a0selfishness as ‘self-interest’ because it has a much […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_mi_skip_tracking":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[342],"tags":[34,44,52,53,54,55,67,96,95,97,86,77],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/swsecrets.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/174"}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/swsecrets.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/swsecrets.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/swsecrets.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/swsecrets.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=174"}],"version-history":[{"count":4,"href":"http:\/\/swsecrets.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/174\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":179,"href":"http:\/\/swsecrets.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/174\/revisions\/179"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/swsecrets.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=174"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/swsecrets.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=174"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/swsecrets.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=174"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}