{"id":226,"date":"2016-01-17T17:01:05","date_gmt":"2016-01-17T23:01:05","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/swsecrets.net\/?p=226"},"modified":"2018-06-15T23:14:47","modified_gmt":"2018-06-16T04:14:47","slug":"first-thought-wrong","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/swsecrets.net\/?p=226","title":{"rendered":"First Thought Wrong"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"Halt-Bord\"<\/a><\/p>\n

‘First thought wrong’\u00a0is a concept I learned from comedian Mark Lundholm. I first heard about Mark when working at a psychiatric and\u00a0\u00a0addictions hospital where his motivational and comical videos were utilized in our treatment facility. I fell in love with\u00a0\u00a0his concept of ‘first thought wrong’ as it pertains to individuals suffering with the disease of addiction and\u00a0their impulsive\u00a0mindset.\u00a0 I also feel this concept can be utilized in many other aspects of our lives as it helps to remind ourselves to \u00a0s l o w d o w n <\/em>\u00a0sometimes.<\/p>\n

My definition of First Thought Wrong:<\/strong> <\/u>Acting compulsively and speaking impulsively.\u00a0Not\u00a0taking the time to\u00a0filter through our thoughts which\u00a0leads to inappropriate responses. Speaking or doing\u00a0too quickly. ‘First thought wrong’ is the concept of reacting too quickly\u00a0therefore our responses\u00a0may be\u00a0wrong.<\/p>\n

When I am using my emotions to think through a problem or disagreement, that is where I need to utilize this concept the most. How often do we respond impulsively using our emotions, rather than taking time to filter our thoughts and process our response before blurting it out loud?\u00a0 It is when I am deeply connected to something that is being questioned that I get defensive and utilize my emotions to respond quickly, not giving myself any time to filter my words. ‘First thought wrong’ reminds me that typically in these heated and emotional moments, the first thing I plan to say may be\u00a0wrong<\/span>\u00a0<\/strong> and better kept to myself. It is a reminder that I should back up and count to 10 before acting or responding. This helps me to\u00a0react logically and professionally rather than with my emotions.<\/p>\n

One thing I have learned\u00a0through social work is that silence is a good and helpful\u00a0thing. Sometimes, no\u00a0one has to say anything and we can all just be silent, process our thoughts, and take time to think things through. This is difficult,\u00a0as sometimes 10 seconds can feel like 5 years! However, I have noticed that a little silence goes a long way, and sometimes not saying anything says a lot. Practice being comfortable in moments of silence, and do not feel badly about verbalizing your need to take some time to think through your response…. It is okay.\u00a0<\/em>You are\u00a0benefitting yourself by\u00a0slowing down and taking the extra time to formulate your responses.<\/p>\n

Mark Lundholm states that sometimes his ‘first thought wrong’ can take many days to process through. It can take that long to remove ‘first thought wrong’ and replace it with the right thing to do. Sometimes\u00a0it will take us days to replace \u00a0‘first thought wrong’ to produce a\u00a0 positive thought\u00a0which leads to appropriate and calm\u00a0\u00a0responses.<\/p>\n

Think about a time when\u00a0you could of utilized the concept of ‘first thought wrong’…. What would of have been different had you used this concept? What benefits\u00a0could ‘first thought wrong’ have provided in this situation?<\/p>\n

Take the extra time to calmly and correctly respond. You will learn more about yourself in the process, and that is something special!<\/p>\n

“First thought wrong becomes next right thing<\/em>” – Mark Lundholm<\/p>\n

-keep shining<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

‘First thought wrong’\u00a0is a concept I learned from comedian Mark Lundholm. I first heard about Mark when working at a psychiatric and\u00a0\u00a0addictions hospital where his motivational and comical videos were utilized in our treatment facility. I fell in love with\u00a0\u00a0his concept of ‘first thought wrong’ as it pertains to individuals suffering with the disease of addiction and\u00a0their impulsive\u00a0mindset.\u00a0 I also feel this concept can be utilized in many other aspects of our lives as it […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_mi_skip_tracking":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[342],"tags":[32,33,121,122,118,99,119,120,117,105,123,65,67,68],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/swsecrets.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/226"}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/swsecrets.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/swsecrets.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/swsecrets.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/swsecrets.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=226"}],"version-history":[{"count":7,"href":"http:\/\/swsecrets.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/226\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":243,"href":"http:\/\/swsecrets.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/226\/revisions\/243"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/swsecrets.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=226"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/swsecrets.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=226"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/swsecrets.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=226"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}