{"id":924,"date":"2018-12-16T11:59:18","date_gmt":"2018-12-16T17:59:18","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/swsecrets.net\/?p=924"},"modified":"2018-12-16T12:21:19","modified_gmt":"2018-12-16T18:21:19","slug":"failing-forward","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/swsecrets.net\/?p=924","title":{"rendered":"Failing Forward"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><a href=\"http:\/\/swsecrets.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/IMG_8102.jpg\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"alignnone size-medium wp-image-956\" src=\"http:\/\/swsecrets.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/IMG_8102-234x300.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"234\" height=\"300\" srcset=\"http:\/\/swsecrets.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/IMG_8102-234x300.jpg 234w, http:\/\/swsecrets.net\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/11\/IMG_8102.jpg 250w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 234px) 100vw, 234px\" \/><\/a><\/p>\n<p>What is the opposite of success?<br \/>\n(*<em>Hint*\u00a0 \u00a0<\/em>The answer is\u00a0not failure)<\/p>\n<p><em>The opposite of success is quitting.\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n<p>When we quit, that is when we give up any opportunity we have to succeed. We miss out on the opportunity to see what it is we&#8217;re really made of. And how can we succeed if we don&#8217;t try? We have to put ourselves out there and learn to <strong>be vulnerable to failure<\/strong>&#8230;To fail means that we tried, which is different than quitting. <strong>Failing<\/strong> helps to push us <strong>forward<\/strong>.<\/p>\n<p>You have to be willing to fail in order to obtain success, it&#8217;s the price we pay for success. Life&#8217;s greatest teacher is failure. Who would you be today if you never failed, if no mistakes were ever made? Failure is how we learn what it is that we want, and it\u2019s how we make changes to ensure more success the next time we try. It&#8217;s when we learn to be vulnerable that we can truly succeed&#8230;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Make Mistakes<\/strong><br \/>\nMistakes gain us experience. And mistakes will always help us learn resiliency. Trial and error is our best friend when it comes to failure because <em>we will forever be making mistakes.<\/em> It&#8217;s a continual process. We&#8217;ve all heard the saying, &#8220;nothing worth achieving comes easily.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p><strong>Roll The Dice, Shake Things Up<br \/>\n<\/strong>It is true that when we try something new there is risk of failing, <em>but isn&#8217;t that when we also succeed?\u00a0 <\/em>Risk comes with reward. To risk means to be bold and find what it is you really want in your life. Embrace risk, embrace failure and make it a part of your routine. \u00a0Success will not always come naturally. <em>To have success in every aspect of our lives would be boring<\/em>. I do not view complete success as a good thing&#8230;It means that we are not pushing ourselves enough, we are not risking enough, and we are not leaving the comfort zone we&#8217;ve created. Risk keeps life interesting.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Focus On You<\/strong><br \/>\nMost people experiencing numerous successes have more than likely encountered negativity and setbacks. Remind yourself that you cannot always see this on the outside. We all have a story, focus on yours. Reflect on your own setbacks and mistakes. Focus on moving forward, always. If something is not moving forward, if something is done and over with, leave&#8230;Move on. <em>You cannot continue to water a dead flower<\/em>.<br \/>\nAnd as a small tip-if you continue to experience the same setbacks and make the same mistakes, you may have to take a look at <em>yourself<\/em> to see if you&#8217;re the problem. We cannot take shortcuts&#8211;in order to succeed we have to be patient, focused, and disciplined. It&#8217;s all about baby steps here.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Feel The Fear<\/strong><br \/>\nWe can&#8217;t live with regret, and so often we fear it&#8230; We live in a lot of fear. But we cannot let our fears hold us back. We need to feel into our fears. We can still move forward even when we are fearful.<br \/>\nAsk yourself, <em>what is it that <strong>you<\/strong> want <\/em>when\u00a0you eliminate your fears? If there was no such thing as failure or regret (AKA fear) what would you try to achieve? When you&#8217;re honest with yourself about your fears, life starts making more sense.<\/p>\n<p><strong>It&#8217;s Temporary<\/strong><br \/>\nBoth success and failure are temporary. The beautiful mistakes you make and the various achievements you experience will not last forever. So count your blessings,\u00a0and also take a deep breath because it can only go up from here.<\/p>\n<p><strong>Be Humble<\/strong><br \/>\nOur failures have kept us humble. As humans, we can better relate to one another when we can be honest and accepting of failures. We need these reminders of what it is to be humble. If it wasn&#8217;t for failing,\u00a0 we wouldn&#8217;t know what it is that we are capable of. Success is so much sweeter when it is earned! We have to accept and admit to our failures.<\/p>\n<p>The best mistakes of our lives are made when we fail. Get out there and make those mistakes, roll the dice, focus on yourself, face your fears, know that all things are temporary, and choose to be humble.<br \/>\nBe easy on yourself. Be flexible with yourself. Think outside of the box. Oh, and most importantly, <em>put yourself first<\/em> (it&#8217;s okay to do that sometimes).<\/p>\n<p><em>Failure is success in progress ~<\/em><\/p>\n<p>-keep shining<\/p>\n<p>Secrets of a Social Worker<br \/>\n<a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/secretsofsw\/\">Facebook<\/a>, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/melwill23\/\">Insta<\/a>, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.pinterest.com\/melkai11\/\">Pinterest<\/a>, <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/Secrets_SW\">Twitter<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>What is the opposite of success? (*Hint*\u00a0 \u00a0The answer is\u00a0not failure) The opposite of success is quitting.\u00a0 When we quit, that is when we give up any opportunity we have to succeed. We miss out on the opportunity to see what it is we&#8217;re really made of. And how can we succeed if we don&#8217;t try? We have to put ourselves out there and learn to be vulnerable to failure&#8230;To fail means that we tried, [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_mi_skip_tracking":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[342],"tags":[417,418,389,391,325,140,109,300,390,321,96,97,86,324,388,392],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/swsecrets.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/924"}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/swsecrets.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/swsecrets.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/swsecrets.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/swsecrets.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=924"}],"version-history":[{"count":19,"href":"http:\/\/swsecrets.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/924\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1016,"href":"http:\/\/swsecrets.net\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/924\/revisions\/1016"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/swsecrets.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=924"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/swsecrets.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=924"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/swsecrets.net\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=924"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}